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How to find the right mate

Many single people spend a lot of time and energy searching for Mr. or Ms. Right … but don't have a clue about the type of person they should really be looking for. Our communications coach, Marcia Brandwynne, shares some ways to increase your chances of meeting someone who truly is right for you.

The proliferation of online dating services is proof of how difficult it is for both men and women to meet somebody special. If you're having trouble finding your perfect match, maybe you're making a big mistake by looking for a soul mate. That puts too much pressure on your search and really lowers the odds of finding someone who meets your expectations. So what should you be looking for?

The secret of finding someone meant for you is to meet a person with similar values and beliefs. So the first step in the process is to know what your values and beliefs are. Get a piece of paper and answer these questions:

  • What's important to me in life?
  • What kind of life do I want to lead?
  • What are my true interests?
  • How do I enjoy myself?
  • What would I like someone to say about me?

The more you know who you are, the better you'll know who you're looking for.

The next step is to attend events and go places where people with your values and interests might go. Do you like antiques? Go to a flea market and find a conversation piece and then use it to strike up a conversation. Are you a dog lover? Take your own dog … or borrow a dog if  you don't have one … and go to a dog park or hiking trail. Dog owners love to talk to each other!

While your objective is to find someone you connect with, Marcia says her best advice is to make sure you enjoy yourself even though you're single. Don't let that stop you from going out and doing the things that you like to do. And while you're out having fun, look for opportunities to chat with the different people you encounter. By being outgoing and receptive, a special person of interest will likely appear before your very eyes.

"And always remember: Be yourself. Be successful," Marcia adds.

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